Singleness - Introduction

(I started writing these next few posts the day after Valentines day, and have been working on it slowly since. This is just the introduction... my roommate told me to split it up so people would actually read them.)

I've been reading a lot of articles about singleness for the past few weeks because of Valentine's Day. There was always a part of me that hated not having a boyfriend... but for about a year or so, God has been showing me how being single can be, and is, a blessing.

In most of the articles I read, the authors seem to add glimmers of hope for singles, telling them to trust that God will provide them with a partner. I am not about to tell you NOT to trust in God, but I do want to point out a few things. God never promised any of us that He would bring boyfriends or girlfriends into our lives, or that we'd someday be married(*). We can't get mad at God if we remain single for the rest of our lives, because God did not promise us a husband or wife. What God DID give us, though, is a relationship with His beloved Son, a perfect love that we will never fully understand, and a promise to watch over us (John 15:13-15, Psalm 33:18-22). So, instead of writing about trusting in God to bring that special someone to us, I'd like to write about trusting that God has a purpose for our current situations even if we can't see what good can come out of it, and how we should not just be "okay" with our singleness, but fully appreciate it... even if it means we stay single for the rest of our lives.

For the purpose of my next few posts, I will be using a passage of scripture (1 Thess 5:16-18) that God has been repeatedly showing me for the past few months. 1Thess. 5:16-18 sums up what God desires in our lives with three phrases: Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances. Please keep in mind that these verses do not apply only to our relationship status, but also to every aspect of our lives!


(*)If anyone disagrees with me on this point... then please tell me. I don't want to misinform anyone. BUT as far as I know, there are no verses that say "I will give you a husband/wife". Genesis 2:18 does not promise us marriage. God wants to give Adam a helper suitable for him, and it's true, He did make us relational creatures! That's why we have family, friends, and our brothers and sisters in Christ as our helpers and encouragers!